This post wasn’t planned and I actually just decided to pull out the laptop and write, from the heart, because at this very moment, I need to explain my own thoughts to myself. You will often see me smiling and laughing on my Instagram photos, but if you watch my stories, you see me, make up free, hair in a bun, pregnant mama who 99.9% of the time keeps it real.
To The Overworked Mother, I See You & You’re Not Alone
Being a “work outside of the home mom”, a “work from home mom” and also “mom”, I often find myself gripping for air. You see, when I say “I’ll check my schedule” or “I can’t that day”, it doesn’t mean I don’t care, in fact, it means quite the opposite.
It means, that the extra time I do have, I’d would much rather spend it with my children, but I also care enough to try to make everything work.
I struggle to find balance in this imperfect world, and often joke that I need two of me. Being a mom isn’t easy and perhaps enjoying it, is harder for some. I believe that finding solace in the little things, like singing and counting colors with your children are more important than the untidy kitchen. Don’t get me wrong, those things shouldn’t always be forgotten, but I’ve learned to never allow myself to feel jealousy over the things I’ve see on instagram or Facebook , because it’s not always what it seems.
I hate the thought of complaining.
My life is full of love and laughter, but it is also full of exhaustion and chaos. When I’m feeling my worst, its hard to keep positive but I try my hardest to be kind to my family and to people who surround me.
That’s why I keep this space, not for you (well sometimes), not for the kids, but for me. To see the growth, not only in my writing but in my mind, heart and soul.
Making time for my family
I don’t know about you but making time for the two boys and my family is extremely important. Did you know that the average Canadian family spends %14 of their time doing all kinds of activities. Does this mean anything to you?
Leon’s has launched a microsite – Project Smart Furniture that houses the full #ProjectSmartFurniture experiment and the findings. Feel free to check out the site! Leon’s put their centralized family-time hotspot in the couch to track family time since this was an integral part of this family’s living space.
Learning to say no
One of the best things I’ve started to do is say “no”, I can’t do it all and I shouldn’t have to place that sort of pressure on myself. As time moves forward, I can only allow myself to take on us much as I can. Especially with baby #3 on its way! So if you’re like me and your over worked, over tired, and under appreciated, just know you’re not alone and if you ever need to speak to someone, I’m right here!
Photography: Happy Bees Events
19 Comments
I love this. Thank you so much for your honesty and just sharing what motherhood is to you.
Thank you for reading and allowing me to share 😀
Learning to say no is definitely a hard one for all us I think! And we are our own worst enemies, aren’t we?!?!? Thanks for sharing your heart and encouragement!
It is SO hard to say no, especially if you feel like you’re missing out on something great. Slowly but surely, I will get there 🙂
Yes, yes & yes! I’m having to learn to say no more. I’m so used to volunteering to help people, but now the people I need to help are at home. Thanks for this!!
Yes, say yes to yourself is just as important for your own peace of mind.
This is such a great post! I agree with it being hard to say no. I have learned it is important for me to though.
Yes! This is so great! It’s hard to, but needed.
This is all so true but so important. Learning to say no is something I need to work on.
So true. And so good to hear all of this as I feel exactly the same! Love your honesty Heydy. You always keep it real on your insta stories!
You’ve 100% hit the nail on the head. This is so how I feel, too!!
Love this post girl. It really resonates with me and my everyday! Thanks for sharing!
I think all women can relate to this post. Balancing it all is a tough job, but I think we all manage to do it with grace!
So glad that you wrote this post, it’s so true! Definitely a #momreality
Thank you for writing this. I just launched mt blog and also work full time outside of home and a full time mom obviously. I always feel like j have nothing left to give. This gave me some hope.
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I am not a mom, but definitely know a few close ladies that can relate to this! Great post and thanks for sharing!
You’re an amazing lady, I look up to you.
You’re such a hustler, and I love your drive and motivation. But I also love your last point… learning to say no. You are one person, you can’t do it all! Saving your sanity is much more important than anything else! <3