If you’ve been with your partner a long time, you may be ready to formally tie the knot. And if you have children, it can be incredibly touching to include them in your plans. Whether you share the kids, or they come as a package deal, it’s important they accept this new shift in your relationship. So get them involved so you can all work together to solidify your relationship.
First of all, you may want to choose an engagement ring. Chances are you’ve been talking about getting married for a while. A ring is a lovely way to propose formally. But there is nothing stopping you shopping for engagement rings together! After all, you want to pick a ring that is right. You may also want a ring that can easily be matched to a wedding ring. Your children may want to help you select a style as well. Taking them to browse for rings can be a lovely way to include them. They may even be able to help you come with a message for the engraving!
Deciding on the event that you wish to propose at can be nerve-wracking. Your kids may be able to come up with some ideas. Perhaps dinner at home, or dinner at your favorite restaurant? Maybe somewhere more family oriented would be a good idea? What about a party to celebrate your love for each other? Your kids will probably want to be around for the big proposal and announcement, so try to think of something that is suitable for them to attend too.
Of course, the proposal itself will be a very special occasion. Even though you know it’s coming, it can be quite overwhelming emotionally. You may want to prepare the things you want to say in advance. Some brief words of love and commitment are always welcomed. To make it a truly special occasion, you may want to dress up. Your best outfit will be perfect for any selfies you want to take. Perhaps the children can dress up too? Think about those extra special touches you can bring to the occasion. A nice bottle of bubbly and some gorgeous flowers can be just the thing. What about some music?
You may want the proposal to be a big surprise. Whether you’re a parent or not, when kids are involved, it’s important that they are OK with any family decisions. Some children are better at keeping secrets than others! It’s up to you if you want them to be surprised or part of the surprise. Without their acceptance, it can be tough to pursue a marriage. If you’re hoping to surprise everyone, try to include the kids in a positive way. Sometimes you need to ask them too.
A proposal of marriage is a big moment. Getting engaged is about formally recognizing your relationship and the love you have for each other. When children are involved, a proposal can mean even more. The permanent union of you both could change the dynamic in the home, as well as with the kids. Congratulations.